Loving Relationships

Do you know of anyone who is successfully maintaining a loving relationship? Or do you know of many people who have broken up with their loved ones, or are staying in an unloving relationship?
Could it be that we just don't know how or what it takes to have long lasting, loving relationships? That is what I would say, as a Marriage Therapist. We are unique but our problems are not. In my observation, we are doomed for failure because of the lack of insights and solutions needed.

Would we be expected to build a home without learning how and having a manual? How crazy it is to assume that we can build a loving home life without instructions or tools. I advocate that everyone study how to have loving relationships. There is so much information out there in the form of classes, workshops, books and CDs. I have learned so much from my personal life and my clients and I love sharing my books and CDs. Let's set the goal of creating great relationships! We want them and we can do it! Let's go for it!

How to Stay in your Peace During These Times& Make A Difference

As you well know, lots is happening in the world. Turmoil is rampant in our earth, oceans, economy and governments. As a therapist, I often see the turmoil in so many individuals, couples and families-- and this is in middle and upper class democratic America. Our news of domestic violence, gang murders, drunken driving accidents, shootings in schools never seem to end. The names just change. And now politicians in our government are trying to erase many years of costly fights for women and workers freedoms. To make sense out of this insanity, I perceive all problems and crisis as caused by our fears, and that includes anger, greed, control and abuse. Societies have still not learned that the most important things we have to teach our children are about loving themselves, communicating constructively, dealing with their feelings in healthy ways, and doing unto others want you want others to do unto you. Also, about tolerance of others beliefs and living from integrity and kindness. Schools must include how to be in healthy marriages and raise loving, caring children. When will we wake up to what is really important and what needs to be number one in our priorities, if we want a peaceful, caring world. All I can do is continue to help people to love themselves to peace and share their love and caring with others. Of course, I also need to be a model of good communication and living from integrity. If everyone would transform today to be the loving person they basically are, there would be instant world peace. Since everything is energy, I believe that we can even calm the earth and oceans. Our wonderful advanced technology has not stopped the violence. It is our hearts that need to be advanced much more than our technology, if we are to be in peace. Let's wake-up now and be the best caring people we can be to everyone, including ourselves. Let's make a positive difference in the world. What we do, say, and think does make a difference!

2012 - Time of Transformation

Wow! I can't believe it has been a year since I wrote a blog. I stopped because of the lack of response. And I felt motivated to comment now on the happenings in the Middle East.



I wish that there will be a peaceful transition of power from dictators to the people. I support democracy as it is everyones' human right to be free and choose their leaders. It is also their right to have opportuntities to speak their truth, serve others, and receive the funds they need to take care of themselves and their families. I am praying that the dictators will let go of their control and listen to the people they are leading.



I have the thought that this spontaneous happening is no coincidence. This year we are preparing for the shift in 2012. It is not the end of the world. It has been predicted that it will be the end of corruption and greed. It will be a time of new beginnings--of treating all people with respect, dignity and fairness.

The Courage to Follow Your Intuition

Do you listen to your intuition? Do you trust it, even if it is not logical?
I do. For example, I was looking for a place to move and my intuition told me that I did not have to worry about giving a 30 day notice--not at all logical!:)
Well, I did find a new home, and I also connected with a great tenant on Craigs list to move right in. The landlord, new tenant, and I were all happy, because we created what we wanted.
This is just one example of the many times I courageously trusted my illogical intuition. It always seemed to work out perfectly.
The logical mind is quick to discount our intuiton, especially if it does not make sense. When we override the limited mind, and listen to our intuition, we can enjoy many fun, great happenings.

Love is the answer!

In February, we have Valentine's Day to remind us to express love. This would be a better world if we expressed our love on a daily basis with others and ourselves. Try this, express caring, which is a form of love, to someone you have a problem with. They are likley to surprise you with their reponse. I always say, "Love is the Universal Antidote for the poison of fear."
Fear can be seen as a poison, as it often causes people to hurt or kill others and/or themselves. It can also contaminate our society. Fear is behind anger, greed, violence, addictions, bullying, aggression and everything that does not feel loving. Loving people would never destroy our beautiful gift of nature. They would not hurt others, including animals. They would not litter our land or contaminate our waters. Love is the answer! Teach people how to love others and themselves and we will transform our world!

Positive Law of Attraction

I imagine that you have heard about the "Law of Attraction." It means that your words, beliefs, thoughts, and what you imagine are all magnetic. Therefore, being positive can create positive results.
Of course, the opposite is also true. When I am not creating what I want, I ask myself, "What am I thinking, etc." Once I am aware of the negative influence, I can change it to a positive one. The HART (Holistic And Rapid Transformation) process I developed helps you do just that.
It helps me feel empowered no matter what is going on in the outside world. I learned a long time that if I want to succeed I need to first shift myself internally. Then I magentically attract what I desire, and I take the actions necessary to enjoy the success. So can you!
Have a Happy, Empowering , Successful New Year!

Enjoy a Spiritual Thanksgiving

To me, all the holidays have a spiritual aspect. Of course, this one is about sharing your gratitude. To me, everyday is a thanksgiving day. Everyday there are things, events, and people to be grateful for, including yourself.
I often say, "An attitude of gratitude is a high altitude." What I mean by this is that it takes you to a higher level of counsciousness. There is basically only fear and love consciousness. Gratitude, being thankful and appreciating are all examples of love consciousness. It feels so good and attracts more positive things and people into our lives.
Everyone needs appreciation at all ages. Express your gratitude and watch a smile cross the person's face. You are likley to respond with a similar happy expression.
Thanksgiving also reminds us to give to others, family, friends and strangers. Since everyday is thanksgiving, it serves everyone to look for ways to give to others unconditionally. It feels so good and it makes a difference in other peoples' lives and ours.
Happy Thanksgiving!